Despite the advice of older, wiser women, many girls still think they can win the heart of a player. For those girls, I’m going to tell you how it’s done. I used to be a notorious player, dating multiple girls at the same time and feeling absolutely no guilt about doing so, until Katy Redbush got me into a serious relationship. Once a guy has lived that way long enough, he starts to look at women very differently from the average one-girl-at-a-time dude.

The first rule is that you must be very attractive. Being cute doesn’t cut it; men should describe you as hot, sexy, beautiful, gorgeous, etc. You also can’t be a slut, not even close. If your notch count is in the double digits, you’re done, because a player has been with enough promiscuous women to know they’re not worth committing to. He’s already seen the whole buffet, so you need to look like something worth going back for.

There’s one final element: you must be nice. So many girls are catty bitches that just by being considerate and appreciative you will stand out. Very attractive girls often act like tyrants because they know they’ll still get attention, but when it comes time to get married, those girls lose out. A confident man would rather be alone than with a slut or a bitch. Being pleasant is not optional, because looks alone won’t save a rotten attitude for long.

To win a player, you have to be better than the alternative, and the alternative is not some other hot girl but variety itself. You have to be attractive enough to maintain his sexual interest, chaste enough to be worth investing in, and pleasant enough to spend time with. He should feel that giving you up would be a regret, not for a week or a month, but for ten years. That’s the standard, because anything less just gets swallowed up by the next available option.